Sexual philosophy
Sexual satisfaction and death
Optimal love and sex, and a gentle death, instead of a god (1.4)
  German: Optimale Liebe und optimaler Sex, und ein sanfter Tod, statt eines Gottes (1.0)
  Italian: Ottimi orgasmi e una morte delicata, invece di Dio (1.0)
  Italian: Ottimi orgasmi e una morte delicata, invece di Dio (1.3)
The idea of a gentle death (1.1)
Consciousness and cognition (2.0)
The meaning of life (1.5)
Sexual desires (2.1)
The metaphysics of sex (1.4)
The pursuit of sexual joy (4.2)
The Marquis de Sade (1.4)

The suicide option
Committing suicide (3.4)
Better alive or dead? (3.2)
No benefit (1.5)
Making sense (2.3)
  Spanish: El Sentido de la Vida (1.0)
  Archive: Making sense (1.2)
Drugs (1.3)

Elusive joy
Nature, our enemy (1.2)
Nature wants us unhappy (1.2)
Nature depriving us (1.2)
Engineering happiness (2.1)
Neuropharmacology - the alternative route to happiness (2.1)

The emerging irrelevance of aging
The other “eternal“ life (1.1)
  German: Das andere “ewige“ Leben (1.1)
  Italian L' Altra Vita "Eterna" (1.1)
  Slovenian Drugacno "vecno" zivljenje (1.1)
  Simplified Chinese: 新人类生命的延长 (1.1)
What medical science will achieve before the other “eternal“ life (1.0)
Youth instead of immortality (1.2)
The philosophical relevance of cosmetic surgery (2.0)
  Italian: L'aspetto filosofico della chirurgia estetica (2.0)
Exciting prospects for women, even as they get older (1.2)
Engineering youth (2.1)
Anesthesia and cosmetic surgery (1.0)

Sexual market value
Appraise your value (1.1)
  Simplified Chinese: 鉴定你的价值 (1.1)
Asian sexual market value (1.2)
  Simplified Chinese: 亚洲女性的性市值 (1.2)
Protect your sexual market value (1.0)
Know your enemies, and your prey (2.0)
Your most important decision (1.3)
  Spanish: Tu decision mas importante (1.0)
  German: Deine wichtigste Entscheidung(1.0)

Sexual morals
Moral values (3.3)
  German: Moralische Werte (3.3)
Disease and sexual morals (2.0)
A dialectical view of morals (4.0)
Morals and sexual arrangements (1.0)
Animal rights and morals (1.0)

Political activism
A political career (3.0)
The new feminism (1.0)
Honesty (2.0)
  Archive: Political strategy (1.0)
  Archive: Activism and solidarity (1.0)

Advice for women
Advice for women in poor countries
My advice to young women in Third World cities (1.3)
  Dutch: Mijn advies aan jonge vrouwen in derde wereld
  steden
(1.0)
What is your virginity? (1.0)
  Simplified Chinese: 贞操与女人 (1.0)
  Bahasa Indonesia: Apakah itu Keperawanan Anda? (1.0)
Advice for Chinese women (1.0)

Addressing intellectually advanced women
What are intellectually advanced women? (1.0)
The bisexual ideal (1.2)
What women want (1.0)
  Italian: Quello che le donne vogliono (1.0)
What a woman needs in life (1.0)
In praise of unfaithfulness (1.4)
  German: Gelobt sei die Untreue (1.0)
  Italian: Elogio del línfedelta (1.3)
  Slovenian Hvalnica nezvestobi (1.3)
Why I don't need many females? (2.5)
China and female sexuality (1.0)
  Simplified Chinese: 中国与女性性欲望 (1.0)
Vacancy for female editor (1.1)

Advice for men
Competing for sexual success
Sexual competition (1.0)
Competing rationally in an irrational world (1.2)

Improving sexual function
Pharmacological enhancement (1.3)

About the author
Biographical note (4.1)
Introduction to my work (1.3)
How I view myself (1.6)
Drafts and version numbers (1.3)
To write or not to write (1.5)

The emerging irrelevance of aging
The other “eternal“ life (1.2)
  German: Das andere “ewige“ Leben (1.1)
  Italian L' Altra Vita "Eterna" (1.1)
  Slovenian Drugacno "vecno" zivljenje (1.1)
  Simplified Chinese: 新人类生命的延长 (1.1)
What medical science will achieve before the other “eternal“ life (1.0)
Youth instead of immortality (1.2)
The philosophical relevance of cosmetic surgery (2.1)
  Italian: L'aspetto filosofico della chirurgia estetica (2.0)
Exciting prospects for women, even as they get older (1.2)
Engineering youth (2.1)

Surgery procedures
Wrong decisions (1.2)
Anesthesia and cosmetic surgery (1.0)
Hair transplants (1.0)
Which surgical procedures in which sequence (1.0)
Tummy tuck under local anesthesia (1.0)
Efficient Botox in Bangkok (1.0)
What you can expect from fillers (1.0)
Disfiguration from cosmetic surgery (1.0)

Cosmetic surgery in Bangkok
Bangkok recommendations (1.0)
Overcharging foreigners for hair transplantations and other cosmetic surgery procedures in Bangkok (1.0)
Prices, Full facelift (1.0)

Enhancing female genital beauty
Recommended and not recommended cosmetic surgery procedures for female genital beauty (part 1) (1.0)
Recommended and not recommended cosmetic surgery procedures for female genital beauty (part 2) (1.0)

 


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Optimal love and sex, and a gentle death, instead of a god

Version 1.4, November 2006

I understand that some people are somehow religious, not because they would genuinely believe in the existence of a god, but rather because they feel that life is meaningless without something to believe in that transcends one's own life. Fear of dying and death plays a major role, too.

They have a vague idea of a god (just as the one propagated by Einstein) as an obscure entity beyond the scientific universe, or as a common soul, or as an indifferent common good.

All of that is of course nonsense, and the fact that Albert Einstein was a genius in the field of physics doesn't make him an authority on religion and philosophy, just as Sigmund Freud was no authority on engineering, and Pablo Picasso would never have been the right person to get advice from on dental surgery.

But I am aware that many people need something to hold on when their mind wanders to questions such as why do we exist, and what are we living for. Or when fear of dying and death creeps in.

Some of my articles are a sort-of catechism on the topic, but I also can summarize it as a mantra:

We live to have relationships of optimal love and sex, and, if possible, to have a gentle death.

Good health and sufficient intelligence are prerequisites for optimal love and sex, so I have not included them as separate items.

A gentle death is a widely underestimated philosophical or scientific concern, even though it is an essential aspect in piety and the propagation of religious beliefs. Most non-religious people are so preoccupied with living optimally that their dying often is a terrible crash.

Or, if they realize their fear of dying and death, they suddenly turn to religions.

In order to de-substantiate religious nonsense, the philosophy and science of modern societies ought to deal with the topics of dying and death.

Dying can be a horrifying experience, full of panic and pain. But nobody lives through it to tell other people just how horrifying it can be.

Belief in a god, and praying, probably makes dying more bearable, but at the price of abandoning reason. And not everybody can lull himself in lies.

I advocate that modern, atheistic societies offer an attractive alternative to religious delusions when it comes to dying. There should be public education on how to best manage one's end of life. Sexual education and education on dying should go hand in hand, not least because proper awareness of the termination of all individual life is the strongest argument for optimal relationships of love and sex before one's life ends.

Yes, dying can be a horrifying experience, full of panic and pain. Therefore, I believe that morphine should be available for those who are dying consciously. Morphine, potentially the most valuable medication of a lifetime, can be the practical answer of science to all the religious blabla of priests at a person's deathbed.

As an alternative to religious beliefs, a modern society should also work to minimize the occurrence of potential death-in-panic situations. People should have the option to choose unconsciousness for air travel or other activities that are associated with an accident and death-in-panic risk. Providing such practical solutions to the fear of dying can go a long way in pulling the carpet from below the feet of the propagators of religions.

My mantra has two parts, optimal love and sex, and a gentle death, but in most of my articles, I deal with optimal love and sex.

Christian fundamentalists stand in the way of a society in which optimal relationships of love and sex are rightfully recognized as every human's primary concern during life.

But Christian fundamentalists also are a political obstruction for the second concern, a gentle death. They argue against humans taking their deaths into their own hands (not by committing suicide but by engineering its gentleness at the time death occurs), because it cuts into the domain they consider theirs (relief from the fear of dying).


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